By Moss Geren, Writing Specialist
March 20, 2024

             There are so many assignments I see coming through where students get to write about their own life— sometimes the professors call it a memoir, a personal essay, a mosaic essay, or whatnot. Basically, you’re writing about yourself and things you’ve been through. Here are some tips about personal essays for people new to personal writing. First, choose a topic that you’re okay sharing with the class. Then, ask yourself questions, but remember that it’s okay not to remember everything. And after you’ve written your first draft, break up those paragraphs.

              It’s important to choose a topic that interests you in any kind of writing; it will make the paper easier to write, and it will make the paper more enjoyable to read. However, you should think about your own comfort level as you decide what is interesting in your own life. If you feel hesitant sharing a story with your friends, it might be better to write about it for yourself, not for a class. It’s okay to not share the juiciest story you have. Choose something that you don’t mind people discussing.

              After you’ve chosen something interesting in your life that you’re okay sharing with a class, the next step is asking yourself questions. Specifically, what are the details of the memory or memories you chose? Use imagery. How did the moment look, sound, feel, smell, or taste? If someone laughed, ask yourself how they laughed. Was the laugh deep and authentic or was it anxious and forced? If you were swimming in a lake with friends, was the water warm or cold? Was the lake clear or foggy? Were there fish? What kinds of fish? Was the ground all mucky and muddy under your feet? Did you think the mud was gross or did you think the squish was satisfying? You want the reader to feel like they’re there in the moment with you, and you can do that by capturing what details you can remember.

              But what if you can’t remember? There aren’t usually sources in this personal kind of story because it’s about your own life. This isn’t journalism. You aren’t stating the facts of the matter like it’s going to be in a newspaper. Memoirs and other personal stories involve remembering what details you can; however, it’s okay if you can’t remember someone’s name, what they were wearing, what order events happened, etc. It’s more about sharing an adventure, an emotion, and how you experienced the moment then getting everything factually accurate. It aims for the truth, but human memory is messy. Plus, it’s hard to remember everything. If you can’t remember exactly what your brother said when he dropped your ice cream cake on your seventh birthday, that’s okay. Capture the essence of what he said on the page the best you can. You are sharing a memory, your memory, not documenting an event for the news.

              Another tip I like to mention is— personal essays aren’t five-paragraph essays like most students are used to. If there’s dialogue (A.K.A. someone speaking), you should start a new paragraph each time a new person speaks. A paragraph can even be one sentence in this kind of writing.

“Like this,” Moss said.

Think about how paragraphs look in books; they don’t generally have too many long paragraphs like how your normal essay or textbook is structured. So, if you’re finding that one of your paragraphs is a page long or even half a page long, break it up some. That will make your story more easily digestible.

            These are the most common tips I give students working on personal essays when they visit the DSC Writing Center. There is so much more I could share, but that might fill a couple of books if I tried. Come to our Writing Center if you ever need help brainstorming a memoir topic, figuring out dialogue, or doing anything communication related. I would love to hear your story. And remember! Choose a topic you don’t mind discussing publicly, ask yourself questions about sensory details, remember that you don’t have to remember everything, and break up your paragraphs like you’d see in a book.